Monday, April 30, 2012

Why Am I Me, and Not Someone Else?

Have you ever wondered this? I guess this is a thought that only works if you believe in having a soul. I'm sitting here typing and controlling what I think right? It's my soul who is doing all this.

But why am I me? Why do I have my flesh and skin and not someone else's. Couldn't I have easily been someone else? Sometimes when I am in a room with many people I can be completely alone.  I can look over at a single person a few feet away and think to myself, "Wow, they are right there inside their own head living. Here I am inside my head controlling me.  They are so close...what's stopping me from getting my conscience inside their head.  It cant be that hard to pass into another person's being. With proximity (sometimes not needed) and the power of the brain I am surprised people don't do this more often. It sounds far fetched to many and completely unfathomable, to even entertain the idea.  The problem running in my head is I think if the person sitting there across from me had, for just one minute, any idea what it was like to be in my shoes they would have a simple understanding of me.

To everyone except me, my question is a silly question. There are things in this world. Things are things. That's it. You just happen to be you and your coffee cup is your coffee cup.
The staggeringly wonderful result I get from understanding this answer is:
The thing the soul in which "you" are aware of could have been anything. A holocaust victim, a calf in line at the abattoirs, or some dog who wouldn't care about it anyway. It could even have been a grain of sand or a hotel, but then it wouldn't have known it was. You really are you and you know it. (So do we?) Rejoice!

In reality, it is the only question worth asking. We take for granted our surroundings and attach ourselves to everything and anything. Our idea of our self is really just that, an idea. For example, If we see racism, we may decide "racism is bad". Then we will tell people "I am against racism" and we consider ourselves to be made from this standpoint, essentially becoming the totality of our experiences and personality traits. But is that who we really are? How can it be? Personality can change at any moment given the right circumstances. For example the same man who is against racism, may one day change his mind if he is robbed by a man from another race. So who are we? That is the question. Who better to ask than yourself? Ask yourself "Who Am I?".

In the process of finding yourself in your quest of "Who Am I?" remember to
1.  Accept yourself and others for what they are.
2.  Appreciate yourself in what you are right at this moment.
3.  Spend time listening, with the intent to learn.
4.  Treat each person you come across with respect for the person that they are.
5.   Offer yourself and others encouragement after you or they fail.
6.  Listen without trying to fix the other person.

I don't want my one regret in life to be that I was someone else.


Monday, April 16, 2012

Preconceived Ideas

Have you ever found yourself believing that a situation was going to be one certain way and it was completely different?

"Positive attracts Positive" why is this so lost to people?  I am just as guilty from time to time.  I notice it periodically when dealing with my children.  When your cranky their cranky!  When you claim they will exhibit a certain behavior, they will exhibit it.  Encouragement can go a long way. 

Now does this work all the time??  Can you be the light, the sunshine, the smile at the end of a dark tunnel and still experience some horrible actions being done unto you?  Absolutely!  I hate to burst your bubble.  Do not let it stop you from being that person.  Sometimes there is a lesson in life from the action being committed upon you, and sometimes it is a lesson needed to be taught to the other person.

"How can this be so Rebecca?"  Yes, you may have to look at why you allowed that person to do what they did to you.  However, the lesson to be learned was theirs and not yours.  Your reaction could lead to how that lesson is received.  No this does not give you permission to "SHOW THEM," but if you continue to move forward and not sit back and allow the behavior to continue you just may be giving them the opportunity to grow.

Today, I am going to be the web that binds us together.  It doesn't mean I have to stay on the web.  It just means that my part will be acknowledging there is a connection in the mind, thoughts, and actions between you and I!